Wonder [wuhn-der]

to think or speculate curiously: to wonder about the origin of the solar system.
to be filled with admiration, amazement, or awe; marvel (often followed by at )

Recently I have been thinking about "Wonder"  and how it can effect our life and how the lack of it can leave you depressed. I struggle with the latter more often than I am found in rapture. It is as if the lack of wonder is tied with the unwillingness to let go of your control and to understand that you are not in control. You never were.

"When you think that you are in control of your life it will undoubtedly turn away from how you thought it was going to turn out."

When you think that you are in control of your life it will undoubtedly turn away from how you thought it was going to turn out. It's easy to make predictions and think you are in control. When I get on this bus it's going to take me to "4th + Broadway". But that doesn't mean that you or "I" are driving the bus. Not "I" in the sense of Tim Sparks anyway.

What happens if the bus driver doesn't take you where you want to go? It's like getting mad at yourself for where the bus diver went, this would be absurd.

You are stuck on that bus, there is nothing you can do. The best way to deal with it is to live life in a way that takes advantage of the bus and where it is going.

If you find yourself in lack of Wonder, think about the last time you did something that was out of schedule or your expectations for daily life? We walk through our lives avoiding change and discomfort because these all remind us of how out of control we are and when we experience them we despise them.

It is a marvel how quickly a well laid out plan can be ripped apart by the unexpected. Perhaps these moments of unplanned interruptions are actually uninvited opportunity. You are on the bus of Life and when it takes you somewhere you don't expect, just know that "it" took you somewhere.

Sometimes it is a good exercise to think about all the things that you have no idea how they happen and are out of your control. You heard some beautiful music. But how did you do it? How did the sound travel to your ears? How did your ears turn it into electrical impulses that tell your brain there is sound? Then how does it remind you of a feeling? or a place? or a person? Then realize that you did that in a fraction of a second, having no idea how you did it and that's  just the processes within your body.

The truth is we don't understand how we do the things that we do, but we do them. The more you think about it the more you will understand that every plan that we make depends on countless processes happening that we have no idea how they happen.

"Suddenly your life becomes not only possible but inevitable."

If you can understand that you are not in control, that your control is a clever illusion of the ego, you will marvel that anything gets done at all. When you accomplish something it means that the entire universe had made it possible for you to do so.

Letting go will help you see the opportunity in the "unplanned" or "out of control" situations. Suddenly your life becomes not only possible but inevitable.

Something that you also must realize is that if your control is an illusion, so is other people's control over you. Don't believe in this illusion; of others imposing their believed demonstration of control.

"Don't believe in the illusion of others imposing their believed demonstration of control."

There is nothing worse than losing the feeling that life is a miracle, that all things are moving and growing. Creation is happening right now all of the time. 

“You are a function of what the whole universe is doing in the same way that a wave is a function of what the whole ocean is doing.”
― Alan Watts

Look around you, and admit you have no idea what is going on. To not do this is to be blind to Wonder.

This article is also published on Medium.

AuthorTim Sparks